Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Bigger on the inside

An undisciplined, self-willed life is puny; an obedient, God-willed life is spacious. (Proverbs 15:32 MSG
When we came home on furlough, inevitable we would watch some science fiction on TV. Watching TV was such a treat since we never watched TV in Papua growing up. My mother was a huge science fiction fan and it was then in the 1970's she introduced me to Dr. Who. A strange and funny science fiction series about time travel and and the Tardis. On the outside this space machine looked like a old fashion phone box but when you went inside it kept on expanding to a much larger dimension. This same series has been reborn and I have introduced it to my daughter who in turn is a much more avid fan then either mom or I ever was. It is really a lot of fun to watch and the Tardis continues to impress by being bigger on the inside while it takes its tenants on the rides of their lives. I have lost some of the metaphor in the explanation but the idea remains the same.
A disciplined life as much as it seems to limit freedom in reality defines freedom. A self-willed life is puny while a God-willed life is spacious. It is much bigger on the inside of the walls of discipline. Someone asked me what my favorite word was...I am not one to have favorites in anything but I really like the word 'no'. When I say no to one thing, I am saying yes to much much more. When I limit my intake of food, I expand my ability to perform. When I limit my activities, I open up the ability to do a few things well. When I say no to lethargy, I open up creativity. When I say no to cynicism, I allow providence to run free throughout my day. When I tell the international students to speak English and NOT to speak their first language, it takes discipline and it is limiting, but it also allows them to expand their horizons here in the US.
So free yourself by limiting yourself...Spacious living is disciplined living.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Reality Bites

She is tiny, this new Chinese girl sitting across from my desk. So very cute and precise and full of enthusiasm in her broken but articulate English. I watched her, she wasn't going to let me talk. She spoke about wanting to be a writer and how long she has had that dream. She wants to go to a famous college to become educated in the humanities (her words). She kept telling me how hard it was to dream this in China, where everyone wanted to know how she could make any money being a writer or even a poet. See, she also writes traditional Chinese poetry but she knows as beautiful as her poems are...they won't make any money. The reason she is here in the States is that her parents were so concerned as to how tired she was becoming after that impossible dream of perfection that seems to plague each teenage student. They wanted her to come here where the pressure isn't so intense, the ability to dream is part of our educational process and she can work to make her treasured dream come true. I watched and listened and marveled at all that potential in that tiny little person. I love working with Asians but for the life of me, there isn't a day where I don't feel 10 feet tall and just as wide. Her eyes sparkled and danced...really, and I told her we wanted her dreams to come true as well.
Maybe that's what we should also be as teachers...dream encourage-rs and holders. I really want to be a fan...I also want to be able to bring in reality when their dreams do not match their ability. Reality can bite...and maybe in the here and now we can nibble a bit so when the bite comes it isn't that painful. Nibble though, not eat wholesale. Who knows....they could go and just make it happen.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

A humanist....

I posted a magazine article last time and that is the first for me. I usually opine on magazine articles or other things that I have read...this time though I could not quite wrap any words beyond the ones that were written. It has struck me lately the plight of women and children in the world. The smallness of my fight here in the US to be heard in certain circles pales in light of what women endure to survive in so many many parts of the world. Some would say that the nature of this paternalism beast began when Eve ate and Adam waited. Maybe..Is it because Adam came first so therefore he wins? How has this helped the human race...this idea that being a man is better then being a woman? In China and India, as the magazine article stated, little baby girls are thrown away in favor of the boy. In the Muslim, Mormon, Catholic, some protestant, Buddhist, Jewish...OK all faiths: being a woman means that you serve the needs of the man, protect the needs of the man, cannot lead or teach men, it is a curse to be a woman, cannot get to heaven unless you are attached to a man, need to be covered because of men, have to be hidden because of the weakness of men, return as a woman if you have failed to be a man. Do I really need to go on?
I hear this idea of 'better than you' in church pulpits, in staff lounge conversations and boys bantering and insulting each other. I see it in men's groups who have to learn how to be 'the husband' and in pornography's power. I see it in every ha-jib and fistula's surgery.
When a woman becomes equal in her creation and honored in the Image that God has imprinted of himself in her...then we become more like we were created to be. It isn't ever about women's power or liberation, it is about our own humanity.
If I had a soap box, this may be it...and the irony is...the more often I speak about empowering women to join humanity the more I become labeled a feminist. I am not a feminist...I am a humanist.I like that as humans we come in different shapes and genders.
We are both equally created to be equally honored, to equally steward creation, to equally raise the next group of equally wonderful, created, image of God, human beings.

Friday, October 14, 2011

We are vanishing: the audacity of paternalism

village of eternal bachelors

Oct 11, 2011 20:48 EDT

By Vivek Prakash

With the world’s population set to hit 7 billion on October 31, photographers in India have been on the move to tell stories that talk about what those numbers really mean in a country as large as India – with 1.2 billion people and counting, this is supposed to be the world’s largest democracy.

When you take a closer look at the statistics, you find some surprising and scary figures – the ratio of female children to males born actually declined here over the last 10 years – from 933 females for every thousand males in the 2001 census, to just 914 in 2011. The combination of cheap portable ultrasound technology and a decades-old preference for male babies — who are seen as breadwinners — has enabled sex-selective abortions and made worse female infanticide. In a place as wide and as vast as India, these are things that are hard to control, no matter how illegal.

We had been trying to find ways to illustrate this for some time without much success – getting access to tell this story had been taking some time. Late last month, a story about a small village in Gujarat was brought to my attention.

Journalists from the Thomson Reuters Foundation had visited Siyani, a small rural town of just 8,000 people (tiny by Indian standards) – where the social effect of such a low ratio of women meant that men were having a tough time finding brides. I set out to remote Gujarat to try and interpret this story with my camera.

A village elder told me that he estimated some 70% of the men there were unmarried. There were a variety of historical causes – lack of industrialization, an unwillingness to marry outside caste and regional lines – and most recently, a rapidly declining supply of brides. There are over 350 unmarried men over 35 – this a remarkable figure for rural India, where people marry very young – some as early as 15. There are hundreds more under 35, but there are so many that no one can confirm the numbers.

I spoke to many people in the town – both those born and brought up there, and others who had settled there for work over the decades – and found a similar story among many men – “I just can’t get married.”

This was a tough nut to crack – how do I take these anecdotes and make them into meaningful visual statements? I spent a lot of time thinking about what the significant pictures would be. A man alone didn’t tell the story. To really tell it, I had to find a group of men who lived together, worked together, and ate together – and did all the things that women traditionally do in Indian households.

I found a group of about three dozen men working on a temple in the village. All but three were not married. I photographed them sharing their work and lives. Doing the daily chores – cooking, cleaning. The lack of enough women to marry, for them, has forced them into a situation where they live communally and have to share in the daily tasks.

I photographed them sharing mattress in their downtime, sleeping in the way you’d expect newlywed couples to sleep. The lack of a female presence in their lives has made them turn to each other – into a sort of extended brotherhood – to look after each other.

I needed to find a picture that would illustrate the dusty village and also tell the story of the large number of unmarried men there. This was going to be difficult – organizing anything in India takes a lot of effort, and almost never goes to plan. If it’s bad in the cities, it’s almost impossible in a little rural village.

I hatched a plot with my translator and driver. We would enlist a couple of village elders to spread the word that at a certain time, when the light was good, that unmarried men who were willing should gather in the village’s center for a group picture. I tried and failed on my first day. On the second morning, no one bothered to show up – everyone ate breakfast and went straight to work in the fields and at the temples. Fair enough, I was an interruption there.

On the third day, we modified our plan to see if we could make it happen. About a half hour before the appointed time – 6.15pm with the golden light and deep blue sky – we sent a teenager on a bicycle off around the village, to round up any unmarried men that had nothing better to do. I was surprised that this actually worked, and I suddenly had in a clearing in the village, about 40 men in front of me. We were going to make a picture that I thought was central to the whole story.

Sometimes, when I’m shooting a tough-to-illustrate story in remote places, the humanity, humor and absurdity of this job really hit me. There I was in a village clearing in remote Gujarat, not able to speak a word of Gujarati – speaking in Hindi to an interpreter who would shout it out to everyone else.

By this time many other people in the village knew what was going on. I was standing on a ladder to do this picture – something I’d checked in and brought with me on the flight all the way from Mumbai to make this picture possible. Behind me, was a group of gawking men who were having a good laugh at the whole spectacle.

I finished the shoot and headed over to the local chai stall. I felt like the whole village was following me. I spent the next couple of hours entertaining a lot of questions and comments about the story I was doing. I was overwhelmed by the number of men who said they wanted to be married but just couldn’t be – some had been trying for as long as 20 years, since they were 15 years old.

I’m having a laugh at the experience of trying to tell this story, but spare a thought for what happens to India if we continue to let our female children die, or be killed at such an alarming rate. Spare a thought for places like Siyani, where people just can’t get married – Siyani isn’t special, it’s an indicator of a much wider problem. Spare a thought for places in India where there are as few as 775 girls born for every 1,000 boys. Spare a thought for the men who will never have families, and spare a moment to think of all the mothers that will never be born. Little Siyanis are popping up all over India – what becomes of our next generation, and how will it impact the world’s largest democracy?

Saturday, October 8, 2011

French Flowers

Camille, Yves, Marie-Michelle, Marie-Josephe, Marie-Therese...this week the last of my mothers family passed away. Marie-Therese or as we called Aunt Tuntune. All these names could very well be names of flowers as they roll off your tongue. My Grandmother, Camille, outlived 4 of her 5 children and now I can imagine the reunion in heaven as she is finally surrounded with all her girls for the first time ever. She lost my mom's twin, Camille when she was only five. Then her son Yves when he was only 27, then her daughter Marie-Michelle when she was only in her 40's, my mother when she was in her 50's. She died a few years ago and the last Marie-Therese died now in her 70's. I would love to see their faces as they look at each other in company. This family was never together, never hardly on the same continent and all but my grandmother died of something other then old age. I have cousins I have not seen in 35 years, and some I have no idea where they live or what they would even look like. We continue the legacy of distance but may God spare us the legacy of early death. Rest in Peace Aunt Tutune...enjoy the reunion !

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Have Mercy, Oh God...Have mercy

After my accident with the horse I have lived a reality filled life of knowing how things can change significantly while doing things rather mundane. I rode a horse, I was laid up for a summer. David, my brother, is cutting down a tree and next moment he is suffering trauma from being hit my a spring loaded limb. Just like that everything changes and after that moment you realize how fragile we are. Our bodies break so easily and suddenly plans and expectations are thrown out the window while we wait for bodies to heal. What if's plague and gratefulness floods as we see what could have but didn't. I love that verse in the Psalms when David asks God to remember that we are but dust. Our little dust bodies full of everything and so quickly overwhelmed.
I am praying always these days for God to have Mercy...bring healing, bring rest, bring hope...please remember, Oh mighty Creator of this magnificent body that we are but dust and in need, desperate need of your healing put back together touch.
It is easy to live on edge, so scared of what may happen in the mundane. The routine exam that finds something. The car ride home from work. The simple hike in the woods...fraught with so much danger...I fight this every day and sometime I succumb and sit quietly in my house not wanting to do anything or go anywhere because it may just happen. To trust God for safety isn't an option because it isn't a promise. To trust God is hard in these things...because we have been taught erroniaously that if we pray hard enough we are protected from that arrow by day. It isn't true but we are not alone and that is a promise. All things work together...how it works and how it is good is the mystery of faith and the promise of God.