Wise Woman...Foolish Woman

Wise woman builds her house. But a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands Prov. 14:1

It has been awhile since I have posted and lots has happened in the world since the last time. We still have the same president...and some  men in power seem to have an inability to be faithful.  What I am thinking about though, is the foolish women, the ones who tore down their homes with their own hands.  It seems these women  get a pass when it comes to infidelity in high places. No jobs seem to be lost or ugly photos seem to be shown.  They only  know who fired the first shot across the cheating deck but neither said a simple no.
I am musing about this because I wonder what foolishness  we women do in our own homes that tear down protective walls but don't go as far as unfaithfulness. What do we do that builds...what do we do that tears down/busts.

Loving our husbands and protecting our marriage = builders
Watching our tongues=builders
Holding sacred our marriage bed by not reading what others seem to do better =builders
Not controlling by moods, anger, pettiness, insecurities =builders
Trusting God = builders
Loving but not idolizing our roles as mothers =builders
Confronting and being a peacemaker =builders
Making a home = builders


Self-centered whining = busters
Comparing anything =busters
Holding tight to rigid rules of expected behavior =busters
Unrealistic expectations for what  he should do, what I can do =busters
Letting ourselves go = busters
Holding sacred the idea of control by worrying = busters


This verse seems to say that we hold a lot in our hands...we builders and destroyers of homes.

PS. Goodness knows that men have their equal  share...but then I am not a man and cannot speak to that.