Since I did this for a season and parented under a situation where having a good marriage was a MAJOR work in progress...I understand this about single parenting.
* you can be or are a most excellent parent.
* you have to work really hard at the simple things
* no one has your back
* you feel really alone and UN-prepared
* the double parents don't get it
* the church doesn't get it
* it is really hard
If you can move by your parents, your family...do it because Uncles and Aunts, Grandparent's make all the difference. If you are tribe-less, adopt a tribe from your church. Unfortunately you may have to initiate because tribes are exclusive by nature, you have to push your way into a new one, create one or go back to one.
If you belong to a big tribe, look around and see who else you can include.
If we belong to a big family group that is healthy and fun and strong...we unfortunately become more exclusive in fear that having someone come in will disrupt what makes our tribe function. This is a shame, because it is this very group that should be most inclusive. It is the healthiest.
It takes tribes to work in tandem with other tribes to create healthy communities and specifically healthy churches and healthy parents.
Tribalism: loyalty to a tribe or other social group especially when combined with strong negative feelings for people outside the group is usually what happens.
The church needs to figure this out...being a tribe where we belong to each other but not morphing to an ism. Being an inclusive tribe cancels the ism.
That's my advice on parenting...
Next...our adventure to China starting 6/21 !
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